Fatherless daughters
Vanochtend ontving ik een mail met een tip in verband met het boek Fatherless daughters van Pamela Thomas.
Ik geef de titel van dit boek graag door aan alle dochters-zonder-vader die dit bericht lezen.
Je leest meer over dit boek en de schrijfster op de website van Pamela Thomas:
http://www.fatherlessdaughtersbook.com/ (Red.: de site lijkt niet meer te bestaan)
Citaat van de website van Pamela Thomas:
I begin this book with a short essay about my own dad, called “Snapshots of my Father” which consists of a number of fleeting memories and impressions, and essentially expresses my personal experience of him. Still, I realized that in order to understand what I (and others) had lost by not not having a father, I needed to know more about what it meant to be a father in our world. As I result, I have included a brief “history” of fathering called, “So, What’s a Father.”
The heart of Fatherless Daughters consists of two parts: “Shock: When A Girl Loses Her Father” and “Aftershock: The Woman She Becomes.” In the section on “Shock,” I explore all the aspects that color how a young girl experiences father loss: her age at the time of her father’s death or abandonment; her mother’s behavior and attitudes; her place in the family vis-à-vis siblings: and the influence of a step-father or other father-surrogates. In the part of the book called “Aftershock,” I show how a father’s early death or abandonment effects every aspect of a woman’s life: her emotional health and self-esteem; her body image; her sexual experiences; her marriage; her family life; and her career.
In the last section of the book, I offer advice for coming to terms with father loss, even late in life, from actively mourning, to healing, to starting fresh. Central to accepting father loss is the act of forgiveness. This includes not only forgiving an abandoning father, but also a mother who may have let you down, relatives who may have ignored problems, and even ourselves when we have failed to live up to the women we think we should be.